smitten

about a boy

so i decided to get back on the horse and resume online dating. last monday i met "x" i'll call him that for his love of bmx and i think he has the x factor at a sports bar near my house. we started off emailing, then moved to texting. i've been super busy so i didn't really have time to meet him but after texting for a couple days i was starting to wonder about him. i couldn't get him out of my head. so while at my hair appointment i text him and said 

"so have you decided when we are gonna meet up?" 

"your the busy one miss?! i have my son on wed and this weekend."

"i know, so your telling me we have to wait until next week?"

then he asked if i had time tonight, that is cutting it close. i was getting my hair cut and colored, i told him i would be done by 8pm and could he meet after at a sports bar near my house? he said yes, then proceeded to tell me he had already had a few drinks with a friend watching the playoffs. was he asking if this is ok? just letting me know? idk then he asked if i liked beards? because he had one and wouldn't shave it off. he stopped talking to one girl because she wouldn't go out with him unless he shaved it. was that ok? yes i replied. facial hair is cool with me. 

of course my hair appointment ran late. he just told me to text him when to leave. i rushed from downtown back to draper to meet him at a quarter to nine. we got their at about the same time but i sat at the bar and he sat at a table. he text me to join him. x is tall, dark and ruggishly handsome. he's a jeans and t-shirt kind of guy. which is perfect for me. i like to be the fashionable one above all he's cool. like that cool, down to earth sports jock you always had a crush on in school. what surprised me right off is he, like me is a no bullshit kind of person. he was talkative and refreshingly honest. he talked about his ex a little more than i was comfortable with but i get it, they have a kid together she will always be in his life. he is kinda a reformed bad boy. he got his act together when he learned he was having a child and got a degree with a double major. he seems to know who he is and what he wants. he is right on the tip of arrogant which i unfortunately find incredibly sexy he has a full life with a great job and hobbies he loves. i was instantly at ease around him. our meet up didn't feel like the usual interview online dating sometimes turns out to be. you know when your talking to someone and they say the exact words you are thinking? x did that to me a few times and i couldn't help but smile, he had me laughing and smiling all night. the time flew by as we boned over movies and music and tv. we talked about politics, sports, pets, religion, and family. he has an adorable three year old son. he told me if he ever gets up from the table and walks away it's because his son has called. he always tells his son goodnight and tells him a story before bed. swoon! was i drooling? i started absent mindedly rubbing my shoulder, he noticed and asked me whats up? i told him i was a wretched sleeper, i fidget to get comfortable and sleep on my stomach and shoulders. "well he said you can't sleep in my bed then." i replied "you're already picturing me in your bed? don't you think that's a bit fast?" then i winked i told him i was loud and loquacious and.. i meant to describe myself thinking i'd change the subject but i realized i lost my audience. i looked over at him to see him lost in thought. omg he thought i was describing myself in bed. i blushed. no! i told him i thought we moved on from the bed topic. we talked ourselves to close! one o clock in the morning! he walked me to my car we talked a little neither of us wanting to leave. we hugged and said our goodbyes and that was it.

i can't remember the last time i met a guy and instantly liked him. i never kiss men on the first date and all i could think was you idiot! wtf is wrong with you? you spend four hours laughing with a guy and then... hug? goodness your pathetic! at the bar i told him men online often ask me for feedback. he teased me with a text and said

 x: "so i had fun meeting you u are diff than most. but i would appreciate some feedback on our meeting! i like to know where i need improving so i can make the next one better." 

me: "thanks for picking up the tab. most guys don't so no improvement needed there. i had a great time as well. i'm glad i met you."

x:"you must date boys then lol."

me:"was that a date?"

x:"it was whatever u want it to be. but u know what i mean!!"

me:"it was a great meet cute(that's what the movie industry calls a first meet)." yes i'm aware how corny this is

x:"so does that mean i get a second one?! or even a date?"

me:"that's exactly what it means!"

x:"okay good... well when you can pencil me in let me know... actually u should use pen! i'll let u sleep now though!! sleep great!"

me:"goodnight"

we have "talked" text everyday since and i can't get him out of my head! every time i look at my phone i hope i have a message from him. i've reverted back into my 15 year old self. i am utterly, smitten! i know things will move slow with him. we are both busy and he has a child so... i can't wait to see where this goes!

 xo, a